Yes. I have a young friend who dreams of becoming a novelist, but he never seems to be able to complete his work. According to him, his job keeps him too busy, and he can never find enough time to write novels,and that's why he can't complete work and enter it for writing awards. But is that the real reason? No! It's actually that he wants to leave the possibility of "I can do it if I try" open, by not committing to anything. He doesn't want to expose his work to criticism, and he certainly doesn't want to face the reality that he might produce an inferior piece of writing and face rejection. He wants to live inside that realm of possibilities, where he can say that he could do it if he only had the time, or that he could write if he just had the proper environment, and that he really does have the talent for it. In another five or ten years, he will probably start using other excuses like "I'm not young anymore" or
"I've got a family to think about now".
是的，我有一个年轻的朋友，他梦想成为一名小说家，但他似乎永远无法完成他的作品。据他说，他的工作让他太忙了，他永远找不到足够的时间来写小说，这就是为什么他不能完成作品并参加写作奖。但这是真正的原因吗？不是的! 实际上，他想通过不承诺任何事情，留下 "如果我努力，我就能做到 "的可能性。他不想把自己的作品暴露在批评面前，当然也不想面对他可能写出劣质作品并面临拒绝的现实。他想生活在这种可能性的领域里，他可以说，如果他有时间，他就能做到，或者如果他有适当的环境，他就能写作，而且他确实有这方面的天赋。再过五年或十年，他可能会开始使用其他借口，如,"我不再年轻了 "或"我现在有一个家庭要考虑"。